I’m sure we’ve all heard the idea of the glass being half empty or half full depending on the person’s perception well the same thing can go with expectations and goals.

In the context of the glass analogy seeing the glass half empty is seeing yourself half empty, incomplete, lacking, not good enough. Our sense of self and worthiness becomes tied to those things we want and they become expectations, we are expected to get them and our self-esteem and worthiness are at risk if we don’t get them and we become attached, we need to make this happen! Our focus becomes fixated on where we lack and what we aren’t and all that space that has not been filled within that glass. We become very skilled at seeing whats wrong with all the details and very skilled at seeing the potential problems that may come. The journey to getting those things becomes one of discouragement, pain and even if we do get what we desire or need it still may not feel good, it might feel empty or even worse the results of that might not be good enough and we lose that self-esteem and worthiness in the process.

When the glass is half full we are seeing ourselves for the good things that we are, the positive attributes, the good times, the things we do right, the people that do care about us and the potential we do have. We are ok with where we are and that space left in the glass is available for us to build ourselves up even more than what we are. We can build up our capacity for love even more, we can build up our abilities to give, we can build up our awareness of whats going on around us, we can build up our skills in diffrent areas so those things become more enjoyable, we can gain more knowledge that helps us produce better results in whatever we do and we can build up other people in the ways that we communicate, help and love them. The journey is one that is fun, we enjoy the process going from point A to point B, its light, its enjoyable and we get to see the good things, the accomplishments, the growth, the potential for more growth and opportunities, we even build on our own confidence and even if things don’t work out the way we want them to, its ok because that need to make these things happen isn’t as strong because we don’t need to chase these things in order to feel good about ourselves we just use these things to enhance what we already have.

Being aware of this is just the first step. As some of you may read the second part of this you may notice a lot of the lacking coming up, a lot of the stories about how you can’t do this coming up, a lot of why you can’t do it will come up as well. With the pain and unresolved hurt and those piles of poop that are still lying around in your house it may generate that smell that takes you away from the potential to reach the more optimistic perception. If you have that unresolved stuff it very well would bring up how things aren’t that way and bring the wounds up, its ok, there is nothing wrong, it is just your minds way of placing the focus on what needs to be worked on so you can get to this place just like with the emotions as well. These are signals from your unconscious mind to your conscious one that says there is something wrong and it needs to be addressed and its great because these situations lets you know exactly what needs to be addressed. This is the purpose the negative feelings and the purpose of the thoughts and memories. When you address those things you are addressing the piles and when you address those then you get to see the wonderful things that it was covering up, the beautiful colors and the good feelings.